A friend recently commented that she would like to wear dresses, like I do, but she just couldn't bring herself to spend any money on anything nice until she "lost this weight." So, instead, and only if she absolutely has to, she buys cheap clothes that fit very poorly and then hates her body even worse. She feels frustrated and hopeless, and less motivated than ever to reach her goals. I wish this were an isolated incident, but I've heard this same scenario so many times, and it breaks my heart, mostly because I've been there and I remember how awful it feels. My simple question to myself when I walked in those shoes and now to this dear lady and every single other woman like her is: When will you be worthy?
It seems like so many people are waiting until they think they look perfect before they will dress themselves in a way that says they value their body and their own self. As though being stylish is only for people in a certain size range. I understand that in the past, there weren't a lot of size options, but now there are. The fashion gates are truly open now for those willing to walk through them, the trouble is, you have to think highly enough of yourself (in the very best sense of that word) to be able to do that.
Perfection is an unachieveable goal. Even with all the filler and plastic surgery out there, no one is perfect. Rather than waiting for that magical "one day" when everything is perfect, I would encourage you to do something that feels very counterintuitive to someone with low self esteem: Value yourself first and peace will follow. There's something to be said for being realistic, in looking in the mirror and saying, "I'm not perfect, but I have value. I. Am. Worthy. Right now, right here. In this body, in this moment, in this life." In other words Dress the body you have right now, and dress it well. Dress for the life you want. Dress the way you've always wanted to. It's not just spending money; it's investing in yourself. And you're worth it. You are worthy; so, act like it by dressing like it.
Outfit Info: The Rosebud Dress from JessaKae, Shoes from VIVAIA
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