Thursday, May 29, 2025

A Better Baseline

"How we present ourselves is indicative of so much in our lives: our state of mind, our confidence, our level of self love and expression.  Dressing well is not about showing off or flashing well or trying to impress other people.  Dressing well is about a baseline of self-respect."  Jennifer L. Scott.

If I've heard it once, I've heard it a hundred times: "I wish I could wear nice clothes, but I'm not spending the money until I lose this weight."  Those must be some of the saddest words ever uttered.  As someone who once struggled with her weight for many years, I can tell you that when it comes to dressing well most people have it all backwards.  Everyone wants to wait until they're "perfect" before they invest in themselves, but in reality, if you'll care enough about yourself to invest in yourself first, you'll care enough to make other positive changes about yourself.  A person who doesn't value themselves enough to dress well, probably doesn't value themselves enough to eat well, rest well, exercise well.  Dressing well, just like all of those other things, aren't about trying to earn value, or waiting until everything about you is perfect so you have permission to value yourself; it's about choosing to have a baseline of self-respect and dressing/treating yourself in a way that reflects that.  
Outfit Info: Bernie Dexter McCall's Sewing Pattern Dress is Thrifted, Cardigan is from YeMak

Monday, May 26, 2025

Outfit Collection: Oranges

 In the wake of my lemons outfit collection, I thought it only fitting to devote today's post to all my orange prints.

Monday, May 19, 2025

Maeshowe Thrift

    Today's post features a long admired Anthropologie dress called the Maeshowe.  I have no idea why this dress is named after a Neolithic grassy burial mound in Scotland, but there you go.  I've been considering buying this silk tunic dress for seven years and when I saw it in my size for about $20, I decided it was time to buy.
    To be honest, I could have done without this in my life.  After waiting so long, it's somewhat disappointing to feel that it's just so-so.  The fit is ok, the length is ok, the material is ok.  It's Ok; it's not earth shattering.  As far as thrifted finds go, I don't regret purchasing, but I am glad I waited until it was so cheap.  I think I would have regretted paying more for this dress than $20.  Sorry for the harsh review, but ya can't win them all.

Outfit Info:  Thifted find--The MaeShow dress by Moulinette Soeurs from Anthropologie.





Thursday, May 15, 2025

Paris with Bernie

There's really nothing like a Bernie Dexter dress.  I'm so glad that this brand made a comeback!  To be perfectly honest, I have been on a bit of a Bernie-spree, searching for and snatching up my favorite pieces from the past decade, and this thrifted Paris dress is a long time love of mine.  I finally took the plunge on it because the longer I wait, the more difficult it becomes to find these dresses. (Little side note here, Bernie Dexter is currently selling some deadstock on her website, so you can find a few of the old styles there.)  This one was pricey, almost the same as buying it new, but it was in my size and pristine condition, and as I mentioned, it's getting impossible to find.  So, I bought it, and I love it.  Bernie has never let me down.
Outfit Info:  Bernie Dexter Dress from birthdaylifevintage.com  Find other dresses at BernieDexter.com or BettiePage

Monday, May 12, 2025

A Spending Diary

As the new year began, I was thinking about and by logical extension talking more about my on-going efforts at becoming more balanced in my spending habits.  If you've been reading the blog for a while, you know that I occasionally talk about wanting to curb my spending.  Over the years I have tried a number of methods to rein in my shopping, and have had success in all spending areas but one--dresses.  In the end, I find that I really do love dresses and it really has been a lifelong dream of mine to have a massive dress collection.  I've also learned that I don't make connections with people easily or often and tend to use my dress collection to fill that void, so starting to form more and better relationships has been a co-goal this year.   The year is slipping by me and I can't say I've had many triumphs socially, but I continue to try. 

I know it may seem hard to believe, but I can stay on a strict budget when it comes to anything but dresses. My home has always been quite moderate, my office has always been orderly and clutter free, but when it comes to my collection of dresses...well, it's safe to say it can be overwhelming.  Since most of my efforts to stop spending have had mixed results at best, I thought I would try a different approach by instigating a Tracking year.  Instead of setting a budget, I decided to just spend 2024 writing everything down.  You can't change habits if you don't acknowledge them.

When it comes to health coaching, the most common place to begin is with a food diary.  Coaches often require their clients to write down every bite they eat for two weeks or more and then go over the data together.  Many people with health issues aren't really aware of what they're eating and have this general idea that they "eat healthy."  If they're very conscientious and honest about writing down every bite, they often find not just the culprits (i.e. lots of sugar or caffeine) but also the patterns (i.e. cravings occur at certain times of day or around certain events/stressors).  
The first step to really being honest about a problem is to focus up and examine it.  Once these patterns emerge, it's much easier to get a strategy in place to address them.  So just like the food diary, I decided this year once again to keep track of every penny.  Not only am I tracking my spending, I have been tracking the days, times of day, and the feelings surrounding each purchase in order to identify my patterns and come up with strategies for success that help me cope with stress and don't involve spending money.
Wow, has it been eye-opening.  And incredibly helpful.  For years I had a really terrible habit of not looking at how much I was spending.  I didn't want to know because I knew it was too much and if I didn't look at it, I could pretend it wasn't that bad or at least plead ignorance.  But, deep down the guilt was always there because while I didn't have a number to acknowledge, I did know it was too much.  Writing it down really has helped me to be aware of my patterns and keep me accountable.  
Again, I haven't stopped spending, because trying to do a No-Buy Year or even a Low-Buy Year when I haven't built a foundation of good habits and self-control in this area would be like deciding to take up jogging by starting with a marathon on day one; in other words it would be a recipe for certain failure.  But being on a Tracking Year felt like a good step in the right direction. As proof of this progress, I just completed a 40 day No-Buy challenge.  That's something I don't think I could have done just a few years ago.  The secret to reaching any goal is to just keep moving toward it.
Now that I have put in the time to build that foundation, a Low-Buy year feels more doable, and a No-Buy year may be on the horizon.  I may not be perfect at it, but as long as I am continuing to improve, I will eventually reach my goals.

Outfit Info:  Caterina Blackwatch Check Swing Dress

Wednesday, May 7, 2025

Oslo and Behold

    One of my earliest posts when the blog began in 2014 was titled Scandinavian Inspirations followed roughly a year later by Nordic Love.  I can't exactly recall, but I can almost guarantee that this Oslo and Behold dress by Bea & Dot was somewhere in the mix on inspiration since it debuted several months earlier around September of 2014.  I gotta say, it feels pretty good to get back to my roots on posts like this that explore both my love of colors and my love of Bea & Dot.   I wanted to buy this dress at the time, but as always, I was on a one dress per month budget and this one didn't make the cut.  I found it recently on Poshmark and decided to thrift it since I still love it just as much a decade later.  Also Lent was over and as I mentioned, I was ready to have a shopping feast after 40 days of fasting.
    I cannot sing the praises of this dress enough.  They really knew how to make a $100 dress worth every single penny back then.  Now, there are so many vintage sites whose dresses I cannot breakdown into a cost analysis.  No lining, thin fabric, poor fit.  Ugh!  ModCloth really set a high bar and I fear I may never find anything I love so well as O.G. MC.
    For today's post, I decided to take a few yard photos in front of my blooming blackberry bushes.  A storm was rolling in and somehow in my haste to avoid a downpour, I lost the first dozen or so photos in this dress.  I didn't realize it until I thought I was all done and had changed my make-up.  I went back out to re-take, but didn't change my makeup back, so you're getting a mix here, but I think it shows how well the dress looks with different makeup moods.
Outfit Info:  Oslo and Behold dress from ModCloth circa 2014

Thursday, May 1, 2025

Cinema with Style: Companion

Why yes, it is another movie review post, and thank you for noticing.  Anytime I find a movie in which I enjoyed the fashion just as much as the story, I feel the need to share.  As you can imagine, there are only a couple such posts.  I also feel the need to warn others if there happens to be a movie that I truly hate.  So far, only Oppenheimer has made the blog for bad movies. Today we're keeping it positive by discussing Companion (2025) starring Sophie Thatcher (Heretic & Yellowjackets) and Jack Quaid (what you get when you cross Dennis Quaid and Meg Ryan, also he was in The Boys), and Harvey Guillén (What We Do in the Shadows).  I went into this movie almost totally blind.  (I say almost, because I vaguely recalled seeing a teaser trailer for this movie a few months ago, but I didn't realize it until the scene in the movie that I had watched in the trailer actually played out) and I think I actually enjoyed it way more because I had no idea what to expect.

Because I want to preserve that element of surprise for you, I won't give anything away in my post and will keep all plot-talk very vague.

In a nutshell, Iris (Thatcher) is in the wild desperate throws new love and going to spend the weekend with her boyfriend's friends.  She is desperate for them to like her and nearly overcome by anxiety when she feels she won't measure up...but she loves Josh (Quaid), so she puts her fears aside and soldiers on. Iris has loved Josh since their perfect first meeting and she is consumed by the bliss she feels around him.  His friends are dismissive; she can sense it.  Josh is dismissive of her as well, but she loves him, so she decides to not dwell.  Then some stuff happens and by the end, a good time is most definitely not had by all.  I'll leave it at that.

Everyone else's style is utterly forgettable:  Josh is schlumpy,  Cat is trying to hard to seem edgy, adn the list goes on, but Iris is nothing if not a beautiful blend of all my favorite 50s and 60s Hollywood trendsetters such as Audrey Hepburn and Brigitte Bardot in classic styles such as petal pusher trousers, gingham shorts, headbands, thick eyeliner, and plenty of cardigans and ballet flats.

Naturally, Iris' style starts out with lots of pastels, florals, and ginghams, which I personally prefer, but Iris is a work in progress and by the end, she's done a lot of emotionally maturing, so naturally her style should reflect that as well by shifting to darker colors and bolder prints.  She also loses the dresses and cardigans in favor of a leather jacket and jeans.  


Companion wasn't life changing, but it was really enjoyable, well-paced storytelling with some great acting and of course, some really great style.  It's definitely worth a watch if you have a couple of quiet hours to fill on a rainy Saturday afternoon or as a good way to kick back and unwind at the end of a long week.  No matter what's been stressing you out, it can't be worse than Iris' day.

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