It's funny how many conclusions people reach with a minimal amount of information. I know we say not to judge a book by its cover but to some degree that's just human nature and that's why I always insist that what you wear says a lot about who you are. It's not the whole story, but it is very often the only piece most people will ever get to the wonderful puzzle that is you.
I used to be a part of this mom group. I say "part" but really I just showed up and sat in a corner listening quietly until it was time to leave. It wasn't that I disliked everyone or didn't want to join it, it's just that the mom circle was a chaotic free for all of conversations and I was always too shy to jump in until eventually my role was just to sit and say nothing and no one really thought to talk to me anymore.
The fact that I allowed myself to shunted off to a corner and forgotten is entirely my fault, but I do remember once, when I managed to chat with a few of the loudest talkers, I have no idea how I pulled that off, but as we talked I mentioned how difficult it was for me to go to a certain beach in Japan which forbid anyone who had tattoos showing. "Why would that be a problem for you?" they asked. "Because I have four tattoos," I replied. They were oddly stunned. Jaws actually dropped and one mom commented, "I would never have thought you'd have tattoos. You seem like such a nice girl." "Really?" I replied, "I thought I was this group's resident bad-ass." Ok, I didn't really say that last part, because I am in fact a very classy girl who rarely swears even when the occasion calls for it. But, I do (or at least once imagined that I did) have a bit of a bad-ass side and I don't see anything wrong with being both.
When I got those tattoos (as well as a slew of piercings which I no longer wear), I thought I could only be one way or the other. Now I am wise enough to know that there is room in my being for both of those facets and so much more. I believe in balance to all things. Why can't you be a princess in leather? Or a vixen in high collared lace and a below the knee skirt? Or a ballerina with tattoos. I think you can be both, or even all those things. I know I am.
I scoffed at "nice girl". How do people come to the conclusion people with tattoos aren't nice? I'm nice and I have 4 real big tattoos on both my arms!
ReplyDeleteWhen I had my first tattoo done, I was approached by a handful of people who told me they "never thought I'd get a tattoo, considering how girly you are". LOL whaaat?! Now, after 2 years of getting inked every 6 months or so, people CAN'T think of me without my tattoos! Hahahah
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