Thursday, April 3, 2025
Outfit Collection: Lilacs
Monday, March 31, 2025
Someone To Tend the Light
*Post and photos will have nothing to do with each other today.
Graduation day is almost here and it will be time for the last little bird to leave the nest. Looking back, I feel almost dizzy seeing how quickly the years have passed. The days were long, but the years were short as the saying goes, and it's when the days are so long that it becomes easy to take it all for granted. Standing on the other side now I regret all the time I spent, "just getting through it," and have become more grateful than ever for the times when I forced myself to slow down and savor the moments.
We all take things for granted. We forget to be grateful for even the smallest of gestures until... one day they're gone. As a teenager, it never once occurred to me to thank my parents for the little things they did, things as simple as leaving the light on for me when they went to bed while I was still out with friends. It never occurred to me that they didn't have to do that, that something so small took time and effort that they didn't have to take. Something so small meant that they cared. It never occurred to me until I was living on my own. I remember well that chilly feeling of coming home late night after night to a dark empty house. It's a light. One single light, one single flip of one single switch, and yet when it was gone, it suddenly meant more than I could ever express.
In the evenings now, I get ready for bed in a too quiet house. A house that used to be filled with the sounds of bathtime splashing, and noisy happy singing, with the clunking of toys being tossed into cubbies, with blankets being ruffled, and stories being read. Now I wash off my makeup and brush my teeth in the still darkness. My children are grown; they have their own lives and soon they'll have their own homes. They don't realize yet how much care I take, before I pull back my blanket and crawl exhausted into bed, to make sure to cross those creaky floors, and flip that single switch, and leave the light on. They don't know it just now, but it means that they are loved.
Thursday, March 27, 2025
Life with Flowers
The daffodils are blooming in the woods. Daffodils are quite dear to me; they remind me of so many sweet childhood moments: of Easter eggs hunts, a pretty new dress each year and a floral hat, of the first bouquet of flowers which my grandmother always brought to me, and of the very special spring two decades ago when I looked out my car window at all the rows of blooming daffodils, while I was on my way to the hospital to become a mother myself. But, beyond the special memories, I admire the simple daffodil because they're also so hardy that they push their way through all the dead leaves, and weather the spring frosts just to be the first golden tokens of springtime. They're determined to bloom where ever they are planted. It's a life lesson for us all.
Flowers are a frivolous thing to some and a necessity to others. Growing up, my dear sweet little grandmother surrounded herself and her home with flowers. She planted them in every possible sunny spot or had them potted and sitting in every sunny window. My dad recently complained how hard it was for him to mow around all her flower beds and how he tried to convince her that it was stupid and pointless to have so many flowers to take care of, "they were nothing but a nuissance," he remarked. I love my father very much, but I'm afraid he missed the point entirely.
My grandmother's life was so very sad, I can't imagine her life without flowers; I can't imagine her without flowers. How much more bleak and lonely her life would have been without her flowers to care for and bring beauty into her world in return. I can't image how bland, how dreary her home would have been without all her flowers, and how very mundane her days would have rolled past without her flowers to care for, without the anticipation that there was one place in her life where she knew her hardwork would pay off.
And as I get older and my life changes, I find that I am in a season now, where I can't imagine my life without flowers. We don't always get the lives we want, there's no guarantee we'll even get the lives we work for or deserve. The best we can do is make the most of what we're given. If life gives you a barren land, plant some seeds and care for them until they grow; make the desert bloom. If life gives you a cage, make it so gilded and comfortable that you forget about the bars and all the wild birds look on in envy. An empty life can be filled with meaningful work, even if it's only meaningful to you, and joy and contentment will inevitably blossom from it.
Outfit Info: Elena Dress in Pink Toile from Worth Collective, shoes from VIVAIA, necklace is handmade by me.
Monday, March 24, 2025
When Will You Be Worthy?
A friend recently commented that she would like to wear dresses, like I do, but she just couldn't bring herself to spend any money on anything nice until she "lost this weight." So, instead, and only if she absolutely has to, she buys cheap clothes that fit very poorly and then hates her body even worse. She feels frustrated and hopeless, and less motivated than ever to reach her goals. I wish this were an isolated incident, but I've heard this same scenario so many times, and it breaks my heart, mostly because I've been there and I remember how awful it feels. My simple question to myself when I walked in those shoes and now to this dear lady and every single other woman like her is: When will you be worthy?
It seems like so many people are waiting until they think they look perfect before they will dress themselves in a way that says they value their body and their own self. As though being stylish is only for people in a certain size range. I understand that in the past, there weren't a lot of size options, but now there are. The fashion gates are truly open now for those willing to walk through them, the trouble is, you have to think highly enough of yourself (in the very best sense of that word) to be able to do that.
Perfection is an unachieveable goal. Even with all the filler and plastic surgery out there, no one is perfect. Rather than waiting for that magical "one day" when everything is perfect, I would encourage you to do something that feels very counterintuitive to someone with low self esteem: Value yourself first and peace will follow. There's something to be said for being realistic, in looking in the mirror and saying, "I'm not perfect, but I have value. I. Am. Worthy. Right now, right here. In this body, in this moment, in this life." In other words Dress the body you have right now, and dress it well. Dress for the life you want. Dress the way you've always wanted to. It's not just spending money; it's investing in yourself. And you're worth it. You are worthy; so, act like it by dressing like it.
Outfit Info: The Rosebud Dress from JessaKae, Shoes from VIVAIA
Thursday, March 20, 2025
All the Little Things of Spring
Outfit Info: The Catherine Dress in Cream Blue Floral from Worth Collective, Shoes from VIVAIA, Necklace is handmade by me
Monday, March 17, 2025
Worth Collective Dress Review
In summary, I'm very, very happy with this shop. Are there some things that could be improved? Yes, but just a tiny bit. Over all, I think they're doing a great job and I'm happy with the whole experience. In fact, I decided to use my thank you promo code to get a couple more dresses, one of which you've seen in my Dark Cottage Core post, the other you'll see in my upcoming posts. My video review is posted below.
Outfit Info: Mary Elizabeth Midi Dress in Blue from Worth Collective, shoes are old from Charlotte Russe.
Friday, March 14, 2025
Happy Pi Day!
As we celebrate this March 14th, also known as π, 3.14, or Pi day, I happen to have a little story for Pi day which involves my pie dresses. I say pie dresses because I am in fact the proud owner of three of these dresses. So, here's how it all went down. Back in the 20-teens, 2014 was the year I believe, ModCloth released a dress called My Kind of Pie. The fabric was originally made by Robert Kaufman under the name Confections Cotton Fabric and came in three background colors: Pink, Yellow, and ModCloth's blue.
According to reviewers at the time, the quality of this second string was somewhat second rate. Colors weren't as bright, fabric wasn't as soft, and they just generally weren't as good as the originals yet cost the same. I've actually seen this happen a number of times where people hold up a re-release to an original and the quality is visibly different. In a side by side comparison, those reviews were correct. (I don't really want to post the pics here though, because if you didn't know, you wouldn't know and I don't want to ruin it for someone else.) I know it must be difficult to make something exactly the same as it was when there are years between the first and second, but I have to wonder if retailers know they can cut corners the second time around by decreasing quality to increase profit margins. It's just a theory.
Since I didn't have the money to spend on a dress that wasn't quite like the original, I decided to pass on the second string. But, you know me and my inability to forget a dress I once loved. For some reason, it suddenly struck my fancy all these years later to see if I could find this dress and finally make it mine. I think the reason obesession struck was because Betsey Johnson had just released a Cherry Pie Crossbody Bag that I was gaga for and I thought, Wow, I love this, but what would I wear with it? And then I remembered the My Kind of Pie dress.
The original Bea & Dot is hard to find and still costs about $100 on resale sites even though by now all these originals have some wear and tear to them and the Fervour version is exactly the same. Undeterred, I kept searching. Finally, I found an original for well under $100 and bought it. After a week, however the dress hadn't shipped and the seller hadn't responded to my messages, so I decided I would cancel the order and try another.
I found a second dress but the seller never responded as to whether it was the original or re-release version and then the dress sold, making it all moot. So, I found a third in my price range and approximate size, but it was the re-release. Oh, well, I thought, if I never see the original, will I ever really know the difference? So, I purchased it from a different re-sale site. The payment wouldn't go through, so after messaging the seller, the seller and I agreed to just cancel the order. The search was on again and I managed to locate and purchase a fourth dress, also re-release and this time the sale went through without a hitch. I thought, Finally! I'm going to get this dress! And then things went awry.
The first seller messaged me at the last minute (before the order auto-canceled) and said they shipped the dress without initially adding tracking info. but it was on the way. The seller added the tracking info, and the order couldn't be canceled. Then the third seller messaged me and said she had figured out the issue with the payment processor and had also shipped the dress (even though we agreed to cancel), so it too was in the mail. I now had not one, not two, but three pie dresses all on the way. Oh my, oh my, oh so much pie. I think this was right about the time I began to realize that I had a significant problem with my shopping.
Now you, like the alternate-universe-pastry-chef-version-of-Sir-Mixalot, may be wondering, Whatcha gonna do with all that pie? I wish I had an answer for you, but the best I can think to do right now is just set two aside and wear the other non-stop, every week, until it becomes my signature piece and neither I nor anyone else can remember a time in my life when I wore anything else and at my funeral the picture will be of me in this dress (or one of them) and the eulogy will mention how I was probably born in this dress and definitely breathed my last in it as well. For today, though, I'll just wear the original to celebrate Pi day and be grateful that this dress is at very long last mine indeed.
Outfit Info: My Kind of Pie dress, Betsey Johnson Pie Bag, Honiara Vintage Shoes.