shirt dress

Thursday, August 7, 2025

Kate Spade Vintage Makeover

Sometimes I see a piece that would be almost perfect.  It just needs a few touches to really give it that vintage flare that I love so much.  This lovely little Kate Spade shirt dress that I thrifted in the springtime for example is work appropriate and completely adorable.  I love the colors and the pattern at the cuffs & hem is just perfect, and you know I can never resist a shirt dress.  The only trouble?  Well, it doesn't really look like the product photos (shown at the bottom and top).  On the model, this dress has a fitted waist and a flared skirt.  On me not so much.  As-is, it's a little frumpy and lacking just a few touches to make it have that vintage style that I need.  The solution?
In order to give this dress more of a vintage look Ihad two options, do a few sewing alterations or style it.  I opted to style it.  I opened the collar, added a belt to cinch in the waist, and also to add a little contrast to the print, and of course, I added a petticoat to make the skirt a little fuller.  I used more modern necklaces because I am really loving the layered necklace look, but the flowers earrings and rings all give vintage vibes and of course my bow headband completes the look.  And now, with just a few small adjustments, this dress is perfect for my style.
Outfit Info:  Kate Spade dress thrifted from Depop, SheIn bag, Life Stride Loafers thrifted from Poshmark




Thursday, October 31, 2024

Autumn Arrives Again

Well, well, the Hallow's Eve is here at last.  It always seems like fall will never get here and then one day it does.  In this part of the world we typically have one week of pretty colors and then it's all dead and drab until April.  Maybe that's why I let my wardrobe do so much of the heavy lifting when it comes to the colors in my life.  This beautiful dress was one of my very last Collectif purchases and absolutely perfect for the season.  I have been wearing it weekly while waiting for the leaves to turn for autumn and it has become an instant favorite.  I'm actually kind of glad the fall took its time arriving this year; we had a very big outdoor project that we needed to get done and the weather stayed warm and dry for the whole time, which helped out tremendously.  Now that the foundation is poured, I'm hoping we can get to work on a big remodel that we're doing to our home.  More on that in later posts.  For now, let's just enjoy the fall colors.
Outfit Info:  Necklace is vintage Avon, Dress is from Collectif, Sweater is from YeMak, shoes are by Charlie Stone.

Thursday, June 20, 2024

The Importance of Community

Since today's outfit features one of my favorite ModCloth styles, the Community Brunch Dress, I thought it would be a great time to talk about the importance of Community.  I'm not sure the majority of people on this planet feel like they fit in, but everyone actually does fit in to one group or other and it's a good thing too because community is something we all are in dire need of.  In my opinion, the ranking for basic human needs should go 1. Food/Water, 2. Shelter, 3.  Clothing, 4. Community.
I've lived in several other countries and I have noticed that when it comes to community, America in general and suburban/rural America are really lacking in this area.  In short, American schedules are filled to the brim with busy nothings and there's very little time for meaningful connections; it's just not programmed into our culture.  My theory is that because this country was founded and then westwardly expanded by people who were constantly leaving all their family behind and learning to be isolated, we sort of lost that priority on family and friendly gatherings that is still so prevalent in Europe and Japan.  It's just a theory, but I have noticed that some cultures are programmed for success when it comes to socializing.
At the level of individual responsibility, some people have an amazing ability to connect with others.  They do this easily and often and their lives are filled with friends; if you're like me and you maybe make a friend once a decade or so and have been told a more than a handful of times just how much people immediately hated you the first moment they saw you and then only eventually warmed up to you if given enough time (but, seriously I don't usually have the time), then building community is a much, much harder task.  It's harder, but it's not impossible.
The easiest place to start now adays is the internet and as someone who is extremely shy and for some reason which I have yet to uncover, also usually perceived anywhere from stuck-up to hateable at first sight, and who also has very fringe tastes and hobbies, the internet offers the greatest pool of possible like-minded individuals.  I really love all my online groups because they remind me that not only am I not alone, that there are in fact lots of really wonderful people all over the world who love and get excited about and want to constantly talk about all the same things that I do.   While this is a great place to start, Don't stop at the virtual world because online friends can't replace in-person tete-a-tetes, plus the virtual world gets really ugly way too often.
Internet friendships can really only go so far.  As someone who has been blogging for nearly ten years and has read her fair share of nasty YouTube comments, usually posted by people who consider themselves experts because they Consume a lot of content and actually create Nothing, I can tell you that the internet is not a true reflection of what friendship and community can or should be.  What we all need more than anything is real human connections where we get together, in person preferably, to talk, laugh, share, complain, commiserate, and just generally be a witness to another human being's life and have them be a witness to ours.  A witness, not a critic like the internet seems to produce en masse.  This can be at work, church, school, where ever people gather.  If it's a place like church or school and just showing up doesn't really yield friends, get involved.  Volunteering or joining groups within these organizations opens the door for more one-on-one time and getting to know people suddenly gets easier when the group gets smaller.
Family, family, family--I cannot stress this enough.  When the whole culture seems to be in favor of "cutting people out of your life," at the slightest disagreement, I think we need to go the opposite direction.  Keep your family close, overlook the disagreements,  forgive the hurts as much as possible, and make time for your family.  They really are meant to be the first and most important community we experience, so push aside a few busy nothings to have lunch or a phone call with your parents, siblings, children, aunts, or cousins.  
We need people in our lives; we need community.  Not just like-minded people but totally unlike minded people whom we don't have to agree with to love and respect.  We need to share in their lives and have them share in ours, the triumphs, the failures, the fears and the hopes, to inspire and encourage each other, challenge and accept each other.  No matter who you are, where you live, or what you love, surround yourself with people you love, build your community.
Outfit Info:  Community Brunch Shirt Dress in Corgi Print by ModCloth is old, ditto on the Qupid Heels, Cardi is from YeMak

Friday, April 19, 2024

Leandra ❤️'s Joanie

Warmer weather is finally here and my thrifted Joanie Dresses have been getting lots of wear.  I am so glad I finally added a couple of pieces of this brand to my collection.  I won't say any more in today's post, I'll just let the photos do all the talking.


 



Wednesday, April 3, 2024

Is Thrifting Better?

The internet started out as such a fun thing.  It was a quirky little place where you could have fun and meet people or find things that were unusual.  It quickly became a way for everyone to be in everyone else' business and all these strangers seem to think they know what's best for everyone else.  Eesh!  Thrifting seems to be another one of those topics which sparks some pretty intense emotions, especially from people who seem to think that buying second hand gives them a moral advantage over everyone who does not.  

So, here's the deal with thrifted stuff--it really is NOT a MORAL ISSUE.  Like nearly everything else it's not a matter of right or wrong, but merely a matter of each individual weighing out the pros and cons, factoring in their own budget, lifestyle, item availability, goals, and personal beliefs.

1.  It is cheaper.  Yes, when you buy things second hand, they cost a little bit to significantly less.  And it is incredibly fun and satisfying for bargain hunters such as myself to find a beautiful piece at a great price.  The trade off for many things in thrift shops though is that the price is reduced based on how much life they have left in them.   Items that have been worn and well loved may be on their last leg, and it has happened more times than I care to recall that I bought something second hand and it tore or fell apart within just one to two wears, so it was basically wasted money.

2.  Brand names will always cost more.  Yes, even thrifted, brand names tend to cost more.  And, yes, as mentioned above you can score an amazing bargain now and again, so never give up.  However, every time I go into my local thrift shops, I find things with brand name tags on them and hefty price tags to match that are stained, faded, or have holes in them,  I've even found some things that should have been thrown away, but they were still put on the thrift rack and still cost a lot because they're a name brand.  Now and then you can find good bargains, and it never hurts to keep an eye out, just be a savvy shopper and if you wouldn't buy it without the label, don't buy it just because of the label. I mention this because I paid $35 for this Anthropologie red shirt dress thrifted and it arrived from a major thrifting company with all of the above flaws, it is stained, has holes, and is faded in spots.  But, because it's Antro, they sold it and I very stupidly bought it thinking it was just a good price, not in horrible condition.

3.  Someone has to pay full price. Clothes can't just start out in thrift shops so we can all buy second-hand.  While it's wonderful to reuse items of clothing and save landfills from unused fast or slow fashion, the simple matter is that someone out there has to pay full price and then eventually decide to either donate or resell that article of clothing in order for others to get a good thrifty deal because companies can't afford to start out their products at thrift prices and we can't endlessly recycle the current clothing in the world.  So, the idea that we should all be thrifting all the time has some serious logic flaws. 
Personally, I love to combine all forms of shopping to have a wardrobe I love at prices I can afford.  Sometimes I thrift, sometimes I buy new, and sometimes I pay through the nose to support a small batch local brand.  Sometimes I resell my expensive stuff, sometimes I donate.  None of those options make me a good or bad person.  And while I am all for thrifting, there is no such thing as a perfect or one-size-fits-all solution to anything.  Do what works best for you and don't worry too much about the rest.
Outfit Info:  Thrifted Anthro Shirt dress, Samantha Pleet Illuminated Corset,
 flats from Shoe Carnival
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